Exactly three days after my husband passed away, I was asleep in bed and felt a firm hold upon my right hip which startled me from sleep. There, above me, was my husband's face. He had a very intense look coming from his eyes and it felt as though he looked directly into my heart. I sat up and and stared at his face. Overwhelmed, I asked him over and over again, "Is this really you?"
With his eyes he told me firmly, "Yes."
I asked him if I could touch him, and again he told me -Yes.
I put my arms around his shoulders and buried my face into his neck and just cried and cried. I was amazed at his patience allowing me to do this for it seemed, as long as I needed. Then, he held me away from him and looked deep into my eyes, he told me, "Write this down..."
I was unsure of what he was about to tell me, but I knew he was going to tell me a message. A very important message. I did not feel prepared and told him to let me find a pen and paper. He just repeated, with a very intense look in his eyes, "Write this down."
I ran around the room looking endlessly for a pen and paper when suddenly I found myself behind my very first typewriter, one that I had used as a teenager. I put paper in the typewriter and my fingers on the keys, and told him I was ready. Then, he disappeared.
This time, I really woke up from my sleep and I cried out into the empty room, "Please tell me!!"
But, there was no response and I knew it had been a dream.
For many days, I would fall asleep mentally asking him to come back and tell me what his message was. Days turned to months and the intense dream I had, after my husband had passed, stayed with me and I often wondered what it all meant. Until one day, it hit me. I realized what I believe is the answer. The message he wanted me to know is exactly what he told me. To simply, Write This Down.
If anyone wonders why I stay motivated in sharing parts of our story, his illness, and our lives, it is because I think he wanted me to write it down. How sharing these things may help or affect others, I will never really know, but I do hope some good will come from it.